Dildos are sex toys designed to satisfy a woman’s needs. If you’re a beginner, you can use a dildo to explore the pleasures that your body can feel by stimulating your G-spot or clitoris. 

For more advanced users, a dildo may fulfil the full feeling you need. There are 3 parts to a dildo: the base, shaft and head. The base of the dildo will protect your external genitalia, the shaft is insertable into the anus and the head is designed to stimulate your clitoris.

As beginners, we know it can be confusing to pick a good realistic dildo. This guide was created to help first-time sex toy users choose an appropriate dildo for vaginal or anal intercourse. It also helps experienced users learn about different materials and toys that they haven’t tried yet. We hope it helps you in deciding which realistic dildo will best suit your needs and how to use it rightly!

A good dildo can be a woman’s best friend. As a beginner, you should start with a short, straight, slick dildo. If you want to add some temperature play, go for the girth and rigidity of black steel, by which time you would have gained experience in using your dildo. 

Next, go for a large double ended dildo, this can provide such intense pleasure for both partners, as it can be used vaginally by one and anally by the other at the same time. The most extreme pleasure is provided by glass or metal dildos – both materials offer great heat play.

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How to Use Your Dildo Correctly 

Most dildos are good for beginners. Since you are new to penetration, there are a few things that you should keep in mind. Make sure to use plenty of lubricant both internally as well as externally. It may take you a little while to get used to the size, so don’t rush it. A few minutes of warming up will help slide them in more easily, and a little patience will let you enjoy some unique vibrator effects as well as different positions as opposed to quick intercourse.

Many women have never tried using a dildo, and if you’re having second thoughts about it, relax. Dildos are easy to use and can be a fun addition to your sex life. Some women use dildos during masturbation or when having sex with a partner, others use them for g=G-spot stimulation during masturbation. Here are some tips on how to best utilise the dildo in your bedroom activities.

Set the mood

The first thing you will need to do is set the mood. Pick an area of your home that has a lot of privacy, somewhere you don’t have to worry about being disturbed while you are playing. This can be done in your bedroom or even in a walk-in closet, depending on your enclosure options.

Some people make a rule in their house that normal lights will be off and all other lights are to be dimmed to illuminate the desired room. This makes the play more sensual and removes unnecessary distractions from your playtime. Be sure to keep other family members out of the room where you are playing. 

Listen to your body

Acquiring a sex toy can be a personal and intimate choice, and it’s important to pay attention to your body’s response when figuring out what feels good. Your vagina is self-lubricating, but you may find that additional lubrication makes your experience more pleasurable by reducing friction, helping prevent microscopic tears that can cause itching or discomfort. 

Make sure to always wash your dildo with soap and water before and after each use, as well as any other sex toys you use. Never place it in the dishwasher because detergent residue can harm the surface of the toy.

Warm up your vagina

If you are using a dildo for the first time, it is important to warm your pussy up before inserting the toy. Despite what you see in the movies, many first-time sex toys users want to know how to use a dildo properly. It’s a pretty fair question — penetration is difficult without proper warm up. You don’t want to just jump in head first with something thick and hard.

Start by inserting the smaller end into your pussy. Make sure that you’re nice and warmed up first, as this sexy toy gets pretty frigging cold. Pop the larger end inside of your pussy, then wiggle it around for a bigger sensation.

Try deep thrusting dildo play

The one drawback is that it’s hard to know how far you can insert them without hurting yourself. This lack of feedback can put many people off from experimenting with dildos and potentially missing out on an amazing new pleasure. One way to get around this is to use a plug or anal beads, but these can be trickier to use as you might not be able to tell if you’re inserting them too far until it’s too late.

However, fold the dildo in half and slide it into your vagina. Most dildos have a realistic shape, but not all realistic dildos can be used for penetration. Many have features that make them unsuitable—such as balls attached to the base, or a bend near the top of the shaft. To use a dildo for penetration, its shape must allow you to grip it comfortably, keep it from bumping against your cervix, and provide room for thrusting. Take into account that you will insert only the bulbous head of the dildo.

Try short and rapid strokes

Try short and rapid strokes, vary the pressure, try some different positions and even use some clitoral stimulation. Stimulate the G-spot, try short and rapid strokes with long pauses in between. To increase stimulation, try using the tips of your fingers to stimulate your clitoris. Move the dildo gently until you find a comfortable speed. You could also move it in a small circle or even use tapping motions—whatever gets you the most excited.

Try G-spot stimulation

Try G-spot stimulation with your partner for a new kind of pleasure. If you’ve never had an orgasm, find out where your G-spot is and how to stimulate it. Make sure your dildo is clean and lubed up before use. If you can find your G-spot with your fingers, use the same motion to search for it with your dildo. If you can’t find it, don’t worry! Keep trying. With a little patience, you’ll be pleasuring yourself in no time!

Try double penetration

As a beginner with your dildo, you may be surprised to find that it is rather small in comparison to what you see on TV. Even if you are a beginner, there is no reason why you cannot use your dildo for double penetration fun. Bend your dildo, use it as a handle to penetrate deeper.

Connect with any dong using the suction cup base. Try double penetration or even anal prostate stimulation by placing the suction cup against a flat surface and holding it there while penetrating the vaginal opening with your other hand. The only thing you need to think about is enjoying yourself.

Try Rock ‘n roll

The dildo is a powerful sex toy, use it for more than just penetration. Try rock ‘n roll, starting by turning the dildo on and applying it to your clitoris. Your fingers will free up to help you with other pleasures—varying the speed and location of stimulation.

Rock ‘n roll is as much a part of the history of sex as the invention of the dildo. So, fire up your imagination and try some different scenarios to see what turns you on. Vibrate your way to orgasm—find out how many different ways you can enjoy the power of two!

Try rotating dildo technique

The Rotating dildo technique is primarily used by experienced users but can also be tried by beginners. The rotating dildo is typically used anally, but may also be used vaginally. With practice and experimentation, a rotating dildo can provide an array of sensations. These sensations range from a completely new experience to ones that are similar to traditional penetration of the anus and vagina. The primary use for this method is as a foreplay to masturbation and sexual intercourse.

Try A-spot stimulation

The dildo is the perfect shape to stimulate your A-spot. A-spot is a hot spot of pleasure once you learn how to find it. It’s basically your G-spot, but it’s inside your anus. You can twist or curve the dildo as you penetrate your partner, and increase the pressure instead of just relying on friction alone. It will create a more intense and deeper orgasm and help you achieve stronger G-spot orgasms on its own or during or after clitoral stimulation.

The A-spot can be stimulated by a dildo if you choose a model that is made of a material that transmits vibrations well, such as glass, metal, ceramic and high-quality silicone. As with any sex toy, make sure to clean your toys before and after use. 

Try using your dildo anally

Anal play can be a little daunting for first-time beginners, particularly if discomfort or fear causes you to tense up. Using a dildo is one way to ease yourself in gently and get the pleasure of anal stimulation. Simply bend the dildo down through the hole in the handle. This will allow you to grip it much like a Popsicle stick. Then simply insert your dildo into your anus, and go to town! Not only will this make your masturbation super easy, but it also allows you to hold it up closer to your clit for easier access during playtime.

Try temperature play

Soak in warm water to enjoy a hot encounter, then cool it off under cold water for a refreshing feeling. A glass or metal dildo is an excellent choice. Not only do they feel luxurious and wonderfully cold when they’re first pulled out of the fridge, but you can also run them under warm water or pop them in the microwave to switch up the sensations. 

What Types of Dildos Are There?

There’re many different kinds of dildos. One type isn’t necessarily better than another. All types can be found in a range of sizes, shaft contours and bases that resemble the male anatomy in one way or another.

Silicone Dildos

Silicone dildos are soft, squishy toys of all different shapes and sizes and are made from a special kind of silicone that is non-porous, meaning it will not soak up liquids and bacteria. It is made by forcing the liquid silicone into a mould so it can take the shape of whatever toy or device it is creating.

Unlike other types of dildos available, this type does not need to be covered with a condom because they cannot hold any bacteria or germs. That alone makes them stand out from other materials. Silicone dildos can also be boiled in hot water for cleansing, with no damage to the material at all. This makes it easy to maintain.

Double Dildos

Double dildos are exactly what they sound like: they are dildos with two ends. They allow you and a partner to be penetrated at the same time. Double dildos have different kinds of uses, whether it is vaginal penetration, anal penetration, or both types of penetration. Like regular dildos, these toys come in all shapes and sizes. They can be small plugs that stay in one end or huge dildos you both can enjoy together.

Strap-on dildos are phallic devices th

Strap-On Dildos

at can be strapped around the waist or hips to allow users to penetrate their partner. Some strap-on dildos are double-ended, featuring a strap-on harness on each end. Strap-on dildos can be made of silicone, rubber, metal, glass or any other flexible material which will allow for penetration. 

There are many reasons for using a strap-on dildo. Some people use them when their partner is unable or unwilling to have sexual intercourse for whatever reason. Others may wish to have penetrative sex without involving their partner or risk pregnancy by engaging in unprotected sex.

Glass Dildos

A glass dildo is a dildo that is made from glass. Glass is a very sturdy material, and great for temperature play as it can be heated or cooled in warm or cool water. When shopping for a glass dildo, it is important to note that not all glass is created equal. As with many adult products, there are cheap imitations that look like the real thing but fall short on performance. It’s better to know what to look for when shopping for your ideal glass dildo.

Realistic Dildos

A realistic dildo is a type of dildo designed to closely resemble the size, shape and colour of the human penis. Its length may vary, though most are approximately 7″-8″ long (18-20cm), with some models exceeding 12″ (30cm).  Realistic dildos are flexible and move in a way that more closely resembles the feel of penetration with a real-life partner. Some have bumps and texture, others may be curved to hit the G-spot or P-spot, while others are just straight dildos offered in various sizes for different tastes.

Steel Dildos

A steel dildo is a penis-shaped sex toy made of metal. One end is tapered for easy insertion from either end, and most have a curved head that feels great when you thrust it inside. These solid and incompressible dildos are usually heavy for their size, which supplies a powerful feel in your hands. They’re often used as a substitute for the male anatomy, though they also come in feminine shapes, such as the double-ended Stud or the elegant Jaguar. Choose the shape that feels right to you, or experiment with all sorts of different toys—you can’t go wrong with metal! 

What Features Should I Look for in My New Dildo?

There are many factors to consider when choosing a dildo, first you must take into account size and style. Dildos come in varying sizes from realistic to fantasy monsters and even monster style dildos.

Size

Some people love the feeling of a big, long penis inside them. Others find that a more intimate connection can be achieved through sex with a shorter length or girth. Dildos come in many different sizes and shapes to best suit individual needs.

Texture

There are many different types of texture in dildos. Glass, metals and acrylics have a sparkly mirrored finish. Silicone, vinyl and rubber tend to have a matte finish.

Shape

The shape of the dildo is another important consideration. When you use a dildo vaginally, the curve should be facing forward. This will put the curve in the right direction to strike the anterior or G-Spot area of a woman’s vaginal wall. The curve also prevents uncomfortable jabbing into your cervix.

Do Dildos Have Any Benefits?

Dildos have a number of benefits, including helping to develop sexual stamina and allowing you to achieve orgasms other than penile ejaculation.  Not only are they pleasurable, but they also offer a wide variety of uses such as giving you an opportunity to explore how your body works,  giving you a chance to improve your sexual technique, and even providing psychological and physical stimulation for some women.

Final Thoughts

There are various sorts of dildos on the market, and the majority of them have been created to provide pleasure if penetrated. A dildo may be made use of for rectal penetration or for vaginal use. It’s common for an erect penis to be called a dildo, but this isn’t technically accurate. Like with a penis, a dildo is only used for penetration.

Hopefully, this guide has given you some info on choosing a dildo for yourself. By now you should have plenty of choices to look through. Remember to shop around!

I would like to use a dildo, but how am I going to tell my partner?

Most people are a little hesitant to try something new when it comes to their partner. It's also not unusual for one partner to want sex play that the other doesn't want at all. Start by talking about it in a calm, matter-of-fact way. Tell your partner why you'd like to try using dildos (or other toys) and what you'd like to try. If an agreement can be reached, then look around together. Choose one or two toys that you both think sound interesting and that neither of you have tried before. Show each other the toys together, so there are no surprises later

What size should I have to choose?

There are many factors that determine the perfect size dildo for your body and sexual tastes. To help figure out what size dildo you should choose, think about what size vibrator you own or have used in the past. If you’ve never used a dildo before, it will be a good idea to start with something small. Once you use it, get a glimpse of your preferences.

What dildo is the best one for me?

There are so many different types and styles of dildos that choosing the one for you can be overwhelming. The best way to choose a dildo is to decide what experience you want from it, and whether or not it will fit your anatomy. For example, if you want to use your dildo in a harness, you should look for one with a flared base that's compatible with your harness. On the other hand, if you are interested in exploring anal play, then choosing an anal safe dildo would be better for you.

Do I need to use a lubricant for a dildo?

Yes. No matter what kind of dildo you choose, a little lubricant can make the use of it much more enjoyable. Water-based lube is best; anything oil-based can damage your dildo's surface or material.

Do I need to use a condom on my dildo?

No. The skin on your dildo or vibrator is fragile and more porous than the skin on your penis. If you use a condom, it can puncture or tear as you apply pressure to it, making your dildo vulnerable to microscopic bacteria and viruses that can cause infections, which may not show up in a person's bloodstream or urine right away. Condoms are meant to protect the area around the penis, so they may not offer enough protection for the vagina, vulva and anus.

Can I wear my dildo all day?

It is recommended to remove your dildo prior to any strenuous physical activity and to ensure that it does not become over-stimulated and uncomfortable. Dildos are not designed to be worn for extended periods of time, so it is best to wear it for 5 minutes or less.

How do you clean and store it?

Never use abrasives, such as cleansers or soap. If a toy is made of solid material, you can also clean it with a 10% bleach solution (1 part bleach to 9 parts water). Before and after each use, clean dildos with warm water. Dildos made of porous materials (for example, Cyberskin) may soak in warm water for about 20 minutes to help retain the toy's original shape and feel/texture. This will also help prevent mould from growing on the toy.

Are dildos safe?

There are dildos that are safe in the sense that they have all been tested for material safety and manufacturers have taken steps to make sure that they do not fall apart. There are dildos made from silicone, natural rubber, or latex. While these materials are more porous than rubber or latex, they are safe to use as long as you keep them clean of residue and bacteria by washing them with mild soap and water (and rubbing alcohol for any adapter or vibrator component).